When someone hurts you, there are two ways of solving that situation: forgive or get revenge. According to the Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary, the verb "to forgive" means "to stop being angry with somebody who has done something to harm, annoy, or upset you." “Revenge” means, according to the same source “something you do to make somebody suffer because they made you suffer”.
After asking a few people what they would choose and why the surprise was big: the majority of them tend to forgive. Only 5 people seek vengeance1 out of every 20 who forgive. The reasons can come from the fact that forgiving and forgetting is easier and faster, or that the pain you felt convinced you that no one should feel it again, or just because you are a good person.
One noticeable thing was the fact that many of the ones saying forgive, also said that in the first few hours they are thinking about revenge, but after they think more about it and the adrenaline rush cools down, they decide that forgiveness is the way they want to follow. On the other hand, both parties are saying that it depends on the person who hurts you and on how they hurt you.
Revenge is a hard and dark road. Quoting one of my friends, Oana Lică: “If you want to find happiness again, to discover peace within yourself, you will forgive people. As long as you keep seeking revenge, you will bottle up negative feelings that will most likely destroy you from the inside.” Revenge may appear childish, but it is a mental game, and while revenge is a long way to moving on, you will suffer losses along the way.
Revenge is a game of loss, pain, darkness. Choosing it can lead to the light and the peace you gain by forgiving, but it’s not necessary. After finally having your revenge you can feel nothing because you will lose as much as the person you are trying to get revenge on. But it can also be a journey of growth, understanding yourself, and arriving at the place you are meant to be.
Forgiving makes you a better person. Revenge helps you grow. No matter what path you choose, you will end up in the exact place you are meant to be.
Editor- Verdeata Stefania
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